If Only
I just watched the very famous movie “If Only” again yesterday night. It was a really touching show. I bet all the girls in the cinema were crying their eyes out in the end. However, this show is more then a tear-jerker for me. Some parts of the show are so true to life. It also taught and reminded me something important.
In the last part of the show, Samantha said,”Just before we got onto the cab, he told me that I told him how to love, he just wanna tell me everything.”
Ian was lucky to have the chance to relive the last day, and tell her his true feelings. Do you think we have the chance to relive the last day of our lives?
“If only”. How many if onlys do you want in your life?
To me, I think “if only” is a very interesting phrase. How many of you have said ‘if only’ before? Even things that are apparent to you, things that are right before your eyes, how many times have you failed to notice it?
In the show, Samantha was a perfect girlfriend. To Samantha, Ian was always priority number one. But to Ian, she was always priority number 2. Ian took her for granted. In her diary, she wrote, “They say there is always someone in a relationship who loves more. God, I wish it wasn’t me.”
It’s so true, and in many relationships, there is always someone that gives more. Tilt the balance more and you’ll see Ian and Samantha in real life. Sometimes you give till you forget who you are, you fill all your head with thoughts of him, the whole day, you just can’t get him out of your mind, and you begin to lose yourself. And then you look at the person you love, him going about his usual business, and wondering if he thinks of you at all. Every passing second like a sharp knife piercing through the heart. In the restaurant, Samantha said,” I feel like a very high second priority to you. And that hurts.”
It hurts every time Ian forgets her things, her school graduation, and ignores her favorite student. It hurts just to recognize the truth and say it out loud. You wonder how can he do this to her, when Samantha holds him in such high regard. Her life revolves around him, his life revolves around himself, and slowly, she disappears. From his mind, and from his heart. She’s there, but just forgotten.
Have you been forgotten by someone you love? I bet that hurts. What if it’s happening everyday? Will you carry on? “Or just a little bit more”, you tell yourself. But, where does the grey line ends?
Lost and forgotten, the only time when she was remembered, was after her death. Ian then realized how important she was to him. In the show, he was miraculously given a second chance to make the perfect day for Samantha. Chances of that happening in real life, ZERO. That is cruel reality. You only have one chance to make it work. If you are lucky, you get several chances to tell the person you love that you love them. But if your love one get hit by a car and died like Samantha, you have no more chance to do that. That’s a hard fact that we normally don’t notice, till it happens.
How does it feel to want to hold someone’s hands and yet you know you can’t? Hug them, and yet you can’t. Tell them you love them, and yet, they are not there to listen. They’re, simply, not there anymore.
Do you have someone important you? Always treat them nicely, and hold them in high regard. Life is very fragile; you’ll never know what happens next.
There’s so many people get knocked down by cars in the newspaper everyday, what makes you think, your name, or your love one’s name, will not be next?
